Many parents and guardians take the responsibility of disciplining their children. However, some do not understand the best methods to incorporate while shaping the behavior of their children. The parents that remain stern with rules and allow little communication fail in imparting the discipline they admire to their children (Anderson, Simon, and Murray, 32). Those that practice an open system of discipline also lose the grip of discipline on their children since the outside world plays the biggest role of misleading the children. Therefore, it’s important to understand the best ways and procedures to follow when disciplining a child.
A parent should embrace good discipline methods such as rewarding good behavior. When a child shows a specific behavior that is positive and the parent is satisfied that continued occurrence of the behavior will result to a good discipline, he or she should reward the behavior. The reward should be consistent at occurrence of such behavior (Diehm, Isabell, and Veronika, 111). The parent should also state clearly the reason for the reward and promise to issue such reward at repetition of the positive behavior. However, if the child fails to show the positive behavior, the parent or guardian should withdraw the reward and state the specific reason for his or her action.
The parents and guardians should have clearly outlined rules in their homes pertaining to conduct and response to various family issues (Rogers, 67). The rules may also include the expected behavior outside the homestead. For instance, there should be rules on table manners, the dos and don’ts of the children, and also the time spent when playing and watching television. These rules should be clear and well explained to the children. Forfaiting to follow the rules should be accompanied by a specific punishment to ensure the children associate negligence of the rules to punishment.
Children commit mistakes regularly that annoy the parents or guardians. Punishment is necessary in such cases, but should be administered in a manner that is likely to show love and care to the child (Kazdin, Alan and Hamilton, 54). Therefore, after realizing the mistake of the child, the parent should take some quality time analyzing the extent of the mistake and coming up with a relatively equivalent punishment. Hulling insults and punishing the child immediately after the mistake may result to over punishment and impairment of the child-parent relationship. The child should be made to understand and accept his or her mistakes before being punished.
The guardian or parent should be consistent about rules and ensure they are followed. The writing and explaining is not enough, but making personal follow up is the greatest enforcer to instilling the expected behavior. Children tend to be reluctant on the outlined rules and conducts, but at assurance of accountability, they stay within the boundaries outlined.
Punishing the children, rewarding and creating clear rules is a good way of disciplining the children and ensuring they grow with good behavior. However, the most important discipline method is modeling a good behavior (Rogers, 67). The parent or guardian should be able to display a good behavior when with the children or away. Children follow the conducts of their immediate elders and in this case, the parents or guardians comprise of the largest percentage. If the parents show good manners throughout, the children will be able to copy and embrace the behavior.
In conclusion, disciplining children required the involvement of the guardians or parents. Positive behavior should be awarded and negative behavior punished. However, the easiest way to model the behavior of a child is through practicing good behavior as the parent or guardian.